How do you tell if a friend is fake or not? It’s not easy because nobody is just good or bad. We all got good sides and bad sides.
But in some people or relationships, the bad sides take over. And that’s when you got a fake friend.
Here are 10 signs that will help us tell your fake friends from your real ones.
Fake friends are not interested in you, they’re only interested in themselves. A good sign to tell is that they almost only talk about themselves.
1. Do they apologize and owe their mistakes up to you?
My best friend once forgot about our date and I was left alone in the middle of town. I called him and he was extremely embarrassed and apologetic about it. He later made up for it by making a fantastic lunch for me.
A fake friend would probably not really care, maybe they would be a bit annoyed or irritated that you even mentioned it.
Real friends make mistakes, but they own up to them and apologize. Fake friends don’t.
2. Do they lie to you or others?
A white lie is one thing, but if someone regularly lies, that’s a good way to tell they don’t have a good character.
It’s not easy to know if they’re lying to you, but it’s usually easier to see if they’re lying to others or if they’re insincere.
3. How do they make you feel about yourself?
This is a tricky sign. But ask yourself how you feel when you are with your friends? And how do you feel afterward? Did they do or say anything that affected your mood negatively?
If your situation is hard to read, describe it in the comments below and I’ll help you out!
Here’s what bad friends can make you feel like:
- You feel bad about yourself
- You feel there’s something wrong with you
- You feel you’re not good enough
- You feel you need to change yourself to fit in
- You feel ashamed about yourself
Real friends lift you up and make you feel good about yourself.
4. Are they critical of your achievements?
Fake friends criticize
Good friends can give constructive criticism when you need it, but mostly they just support you and make sure you know how awesome you are for your achievement.
5. Do they understand your limitations?
Real friends understand when you can’t or don’t want to do something.
Fake friends will expect a lot from you, and get angry or irritated when you disappoint them.
Real friends have reasonable expectations on you, and they are understanding of your mistakes and flaws.
6. How do they react when you tell them something you’re proud or happy about?
Fake friends get envious and jealous when you do good and they will probably try to put you down in those situations.
Good friends will be happy for you.
7. Do they act differently when around others?
Are they mean when you are one-on-one, but “fake nice” when around others? Or is it the other way around, that they’re nice one-on-one and mean toward you around others?
Fake friends act differently when other people are around. This is a manipulative behavior that’s not acceptable.
8. Do they talk bad about you behind your back?
Fake friends talk shit and gossip about others with you. That’s a sign that they might gossip when you can’t hear it.
Real friends mostly say good things about others and good things about you.
9. Can you trust them to keep a secret?
Fake friends will tell your secrets to others because they don’t really care about you.
Real friends can be trusted with your secrets. It’s not black and white, but if someone has betrayed your trust more than once (and not apologized!), it might be time to rethink your relationship.
10. Do they try to one-up you?
Fake friends will try to one-up you. For example, if you tell them you got a new phone, they will claim their phone is better, or they will criticize your phone.
The reason they act like this is often because they have an inferiority complex and need to prove they’re better than everyone else.
Thanks for reading! Xoxo